There's an ethic that says: 'You don't run off to the church for the sacraments of salvation you establish a personal relationship with God. You don't run off to the courts for justice you settle it yourself. You don't run off to labor unions to sort out your work relations you can take this job and shove it if you don't like what you're doing.'
Romance should never begin with sentiment. It should begin with science and end with a settlement.